Warning: Are you running from the wrong thing? (I was.)

overcoming fear: standing on the edge of a cliff

I’m afraid of lots of things: car accidents, getting mugged, running out of money, being laughed at, getting rejected, failing. I’m kind of used to those fears. But this was something different.

6 Common mistakes that can ruin your relationship

Two tense people having it out

Tolstoy famously said “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” I disagree. Most people are unhappy in the same ways, and it’s mostly due to making the same few mistakes.

How unhappiness works–and how to beat it

Pop quiz: only one question and it’s multiple choice. What would make me happy? a) winning the lottery b) my loved ones truly appreciating me c) a lifetime supply of chocolate d) my neocortex Happiness, and unhappiness, are actually pretty simple, but they’re not caused by circumstances like most people […]

Get rid of clutter, lose weight, improve relationships: Surprising lessons from car manufacturing

What does car manufacturing have to do with relationships? Perspective. If you feel a need to control every step to make everything go right, that’s a hindrance to life, peace, and, surprisingly, manufacturing. Needing to control also causes the need to hoard. If you need parts for your assembly line […]