Did I call the Ghost of Crap-Relationship Past back into my life just by reading that poem? Yes, it appears that I did.
How to get what you want (or what you don’t want)
Tag: satisfaction
The most important life hack of all (do you agree?)
It wasn’t just the cereal bowl. It was everything.
Every morning, my first husband would sit in the living room and eat a dish of cereal. When he was finished, he’d set the bowl on the floor next the recliner with half an inch of used milk still in the bottom. Then he’d go on about his day and not think about it again. I, on the other hand… couldn’t NOT think about it.
But that wasn’t what bothered me most. What turned a minor nuisance into a raging insult was my interpretation.
What do you need right now?
Have you ever been so tired, you find yourself wailing despairingly, “I just want to go to bed!” …when you’re already on your way there?
Two days of inspiration in one small burst
“The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you say to someone when you’re being uncool.”
— Almost Famous
Celebrating an Ecstatic Goodbye + 50% off Beyond Fear
It’s a year ago today that I gathered the last few things out of my office, took my name plate off the door, and walked out for the last time–a free woman. Here’s the secret most people won’t tell you: exciting = terrifying + awesome.
On quitting my job and freedom
I sat at my beige desk, surrounded by beige walls and beige bookcases. The ceiling vent inexorably blew cold air on my neck, as it had every day for four years. I felt the beginnings of my daily boredom headache taking root as the afternoon stretched on, snagged and stuck on the eternal 2:33 pm.
Creativity, passion, fire–the mysterious ways of The Pull
Sometimes, you’re so fired up, your energy feels like a big glistening color-filled bubble in your chest, pulling you irresistibly toward creativity and success. But then there are the other times. If you’ve experienced The Pull, and then experienced the lack of it, you know what a slog it can be to try to work when it’s gone. So, what can you do?
On cubicles, a death wish, and how I bought back my life
I stood frozen, watching the car speed toward me. It was a deer-in-the-headlights moment: I knew I had to get out of the way, but there I stood, rooted to the spot as the car got closer.
What’s holding you back? (Free Guide)
If you could do anything, if nothing was holding you back and there were no rules, no constraints, no money problems, no judgmental faces… what would you do?
Warning: Are you running from the wrong thing? (I was.)
I’m afraid of lots of things: car accidents, getting mugged, running out of money, being laughed at, getting rejected, failing. I’m kind of used to those fears. But this was something different.
Overcoming fear in the sunshine with barbecue and Miatas
There are two main ways people suggest when they tell you how to overcome fear: gradually expanding your comfort zone by taking baby steps, or leaping outside your comfort zone and letting it spring out to catch up with your new position. Last weekend, I revisited my favorite fear-conquering leap: autocross.
Let go and do more: One piece of the puzzle
When you fight against yourself, you’re guaranteed to lose. Here’s one way to stop struggling against yourself and your feelings.