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Category: Managing your Life

cereal bowl with tiny person swimming on one last cornflake in a sea of old milk

The most important life hack of all (do you agree?)

[ 5 ] December 7, 2017

It wasn’t just the cereal bowl. It was everything.

Every morning, my first husband would sit in the living room and eat a dish of cereal. When he was finished, he’d set the bowl on the floor next the recliner with half an inch of used milk still in the bottom. Then he’d go on about his day and not think about it again. I, on the other hand… couldn’t NOT think about it.

But that wasn’t what bothered me most. What turned a minor nuisance into a raging insult was my interpretation.

unflappable seagull at Niagara Falls

How to be far less flappable

[ 0 ] June 30, 2017

You know how some people can change your mood, just by being around them? Some people spread happiness like grass seed. On the other hand, you might be feeling fine until you run into Mr. Pit of Despair. If you’re not careful, you can absorb his mood and feel like you’re wading through tar for […]

shovel digging a hole

What if your Dig Deep button broke?

[ 9 ] September 5, 2012

I know I’m not the only one who seems to get around to solitude, creativity, and recharging only after all the “serious work” is done (i.e., never, in some cases). What if you broke your Dig Deep button and put coming alive first?

yawning lion--as tired as I am?

What do you need right now?

[ 14 ] August 23, 2012

Have you ever been so tired, you find yourself wailing despairingly, “I just want to go to bed!” …when you’re already on your way there?

World Domination Summit globe on stage

Two days of inspiration in one small burst

[ 2 ] July 31, 2012

“The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you say to someone when you’re being uncool.”
— Almost Famous

"I am drawn to fire."

Creativity, passion, fire–the mysterious ways of The Pull

[ 3 ] June 27, 2012

Sometimes, you’re so fired up, your energy feels like a big glistening color-filled bubble in your chest, pulling you irresistibly toward creativity and success. But then there are the other times. If you’ve experienced The Pull, and then experienced the lack of it, you know what a slog it can be to try to work when it’s gone. So, what can you do?

a line drawing of an anxious brain, representing the way highly sensitive people feel in many situations

Are you highly sensitive?

[ 1 ] June 11, 2012

I used to think something was wrong with me. I need to eat frequently or I get grumpy, then stupid. Shrill noises give me a headache. I can’t think when there’s too much going on or if there’s a loud environment. A scratchy tag in my shirt can ruin my whole day. If someone makes a careless remark, it can bother me for days afterward. Sound familiar?

A car speeding toward you--the first step to overcoming fear?

On cubicles, a death wish, and how I bought back my life

[ 0 ] May 22, 2012

I stood frozen, watching the car speed toward me. It was a deer-in-the-headlights moment: I knew I had to get out of the way, but there I stood, rooted to the spot as the car got closer.

children on a water ride demonstrate different reactions to fear

How do you approach fear? Fun quiz

[ 0 ] May 16, 2012

How do you approach fear? Take this quiz!

overcoming fear: standing on the edge of a cliff

Warning: Are you running from the wrong thing? (I was.)

[ 14 ] May 9, 2012

I’m afraid of lots of things: car accidents, getting mugged, running out of money, being laughed at, getting rejected, failing. I’m kind of used to those fears. But this was something different.

My favorite method of overcoming fear: autocross

Overcoming fear in the sunshine with barbecue and Miatas

[ 6 ] March 19, 2012

There are two main ways people suggest when they tell you how to overcome fear: gradually expanding your comfort zone by taking baby steps, or leaping outside your comfort zone and letting it spring out to catch up with your new position. Last weekend, I revisited my favorite fear-conquering leap: autocross.

overcome sadness and learn how to feel better

Let go and do more: One piece of the puzzle

[ 4 ] March 14, 2012

When you fight against yourself, you’re guaranteed to lose. Here’s one way to stop struggling against yourself and your feelings.